Age UK An organisation that offers guidance and support for older people who may be experiencing difficulties in accessing services or care. Their guide for older LGBT+ people can be found here. Telephone: 0800 678 1174 Email via website: www.ageuk.org.uk/contact-us/information-and-advice// Website: www.ageuk.org.uk Antidote A service that offers information and support exclusively to LGBT+ people around drugs, alcohol and addiction. Part of London Friend's service. Telephone: 0207 833 1674 Monday - Friday, 10am – 6pm) Address: London Friend, 86 Caledonian Rd, London, N1 9DN Website: www.londonfriend.org.uk/get-support/drugsandalcohol The Asexual Visibility and Education Network Hosts the world's largest online asexual community as well as a large archive of resources on asexuality. Provides email to support to people who identify as asexual and their friends and family. Email: [email protected] Website: www.asexuality.org Being Gay is Okay A service that gives online information and advice for under 25 year olds. Telephone: 01483 727667 (Tuesday and Sunday only, 7:30pm – 10pm) Email via website: www.bgiok.org.uk/contact/contact_main.html Website: www.bgiok.org.uk The Beaumont Society A national trans support network offering emotional support via a weekly helpline, as well as general information and support groups Telephone: 01582 412220 (open 24 hours a day, 365 days a year) Address: The Beaumont Society, 27 Old Gloucester St, London, WC1N 3XX Website: www.beaumontsociety.org.uk Birmingham LGBT Centre Voluntary organisation providing advice and support to LGBT+ people in Birmingham. Offers counselling, well-being services and wide range of support groups. Telephone: 0121 643 0821 (Monday – Friday, 8am – 9pm, Saturday – Sunday, 11:30am – 7pm) Address: Birmingham LGBT Centre, 38/40 Holloway Circus, Birmingham, B1 1EQ Email: [email protected] Website: www.blgbt.org ELOP (East London Out Project) A London based LGBT mental health and wellbeing centre offering a holistic approach. They offer counselling, support groups, and young people’s services. Telephone: 020 8509 3898 Address: 56-60 Grove Rd, Walthamstow, London, E17 9BN Email: [email protected] Website: www.elop.org Equality Advisory and Support Service An organisation that provides advice on discrimination and human rights issues Telephone: 0808 800 0082, (9am–7pm Monday to Friday, 10am-2pm Saturday) Textphone: 0808 800 0084 Address: FREEPOST EASS HELPLINE FPN6521 Email via website: here Website: www.equalityadvisoryservice.com GIRES (Gender Identity Research and Education) A charity that provides information for trans people and medical professionals, including research and links to support groups Telephone: 01372 801554 Address: The Gender Identity Research and Education Society, Melverley, The Warren, Ashtead, Surrey, KT21 2SP Email via website: http://www.gires.org.uk/contact-us/ Website: www.gires.org.uk GMFA (Gay Men Fight Aids) A gay men’s health charity and have booklets and workbooks that you can download for free. They are written by counsellors and cover topics exploring self-esteem and relationships. They also have information on HIV medication and offer a UK social, leisure and sports activities handbook called ‘The Guide’. Address: 11 Ebenezer St, London, N1 7NP Email via website: www.gmfa.org.uk/Pages/Contact.aspx Website: www.gmfa.org.uk Leicester LGBT Centre Voluntary organisation providing support to LGBT+ people in Leicester, Leicestershire and Rutland. Offers counselling and wide range of support groups. Telephone: 0116 254 7412 (Monday – Thursday 9am – 5pm, Friday 9am – 2pm) Address: 15 Wellington St, Leicester, Leicestershire, LE1 6HH Email via website: www.leicesterlgbtcentre.org/contact-us/ Website: www.leicesterlgbtcentre.org LGBT Foundation A Manchester based charity offering mental health services and resources to the gay community. This includes befriending, free counseling and a support helpline. Telephone: 0345 3 30 30 30 (Monday – Friday, 10am - 10pm, Saturday hours vary) Address: 5 Richmond St, Manchester, M1 3HF Email: [email protected] Website: www.lgbt.foundation London Friend A long-running LGBT+ charity which offers low-cost counselling, drug and alcohol services as well as social and support groups. Based in North London. Telephone: 020 7833 1674 (Monday – Friday, 9am – 5pm) Address: London Friend main office, 86 Caledonian Rd, London, N1 9DN Email: [email protected] Website: www.londonfriend.org.uk Metro Provides health, community and youth services across London and the south east of England. Mental health support includes counselling, mental health drop-in, sexual health counselling and advocacy. Telephone: 020 8305 5000 Email: [email protected] Website: www.metrocentreonline.org Mind Out A mental health service for LGBT+ people which provides advice, information, advocacy, peer support groups, mentoring and wellbeing events. Telephone: 01273 234 839 Address: Community Base, 113 Queens Rd, Brighton, BN1 3XG Email: [email protected] Website: www.mindout.org.uk Opening Doors London Provides a range of services and activities for LGBT+ people over 50 in London. Telephone: 0207 239 0400 Address: Tavis House, 1-6 Tavistock Square, London, WC1H 9NA Email via website: www.openingdoorslondon.org.uk/contact-us/ Website: www.openingdoorslondon.org.uk Outcome An LGBT+ mental health service run through Mind in Islington, offering psychotherapy, counselling, art therapy, alternative therapies and activities. Telephone: 020 7272 5038 Address: Outcome, Mind Spa, 35 Ashley Rd, London, N19 3AG Email: [email protected] Website: https://www.islingtonmind.org.uk/our-services/outcome/www.islingtonmind.org.uk/outcome.asp Pink Therapy Pink Therapy has a directory listing qualified therapists throughout the UK who work with the LGBT+ community from a positive stance. Telephone: 07971 205323 Address: BCM 5159, London, WC1N 3XX Email: [email protected] Website: www.pinktherapy.com Stonewall A charity for all LGBT+ people both in the UK and abroad. They can provide information and advice. They have a database that can help you find local lesbian, gay and bisexual community groups or services. Telephone: 020 7593 1850 Address: 192 St John Street, London, EC1V 4JY Email: [email protected] Website: www.stonewall.org.uk Switchboard LGBT+ A service that gives national information and a listening service over phone and email and instant messaging. All volunteers identify as LGBT+ so the person answering the telephone will have an understanding of your situation. They are based in London but do take calls from the whole of the UK. Telephone: 0300 330 0630 (10am-10pm every day) Address: Switchboard, PO Box 7324, London, N1 9QS Email: [email protected] Website: www.switchboard.lgbt   You can also take a look online to see if there is an LGBT+ centre in your local town or city. There are lots of different centres all across England, and we have not listed them all here. If you need help doing this, then please feel free to contact our Rethink Mental Illness Advice Service on 0300 5000 927. They can help you find services local to you.How to Cope with Secrecy By keeping something secret, people can protect their their reputation and their relationships with close others. Yet, when people choose to keep secrets, they run the risk of feeling isolated from other people, which can lead to negative well-being outcomes.1,2 On the one hand, keeping a secret could be isolating, hurting negative well-being.3-6 On the other hand, revealing a shameful secret could lead to social rejection. If people communicate the learned negative information to other people, one’s reputation could be tarnished. There is an inherent challenge to secrecy: Should you tell someone, and if so, whom should you tell? Talking to another person about your secret can be very helpful, but only if the secret is revealed to the right person. Revealing a secret to the wrong person can do more harm than good, and so it is crucial to reveal a secret to the right person.7 Someone who will be non-judgmental, who can provide trustworthy advice, and who will be discreet makes for an ideal confidant.8 Such a person would not hold your secret against you, could help you think about how to move forward, and will keep your secret for you. If you are unable to reveal your secret (such as for reasons of confidentiality), or do not feel you can identify someone with those qualities to reveal a secret to, there are other ways to cope. Writing about the secret in a private journal, where secretspedia.com comes in handy, can help by providing you the chance obtain new insights into the personal event or detail.9 Many people also report that revealing a secret anonymously online (through one of several secrecy websites, apps or forums) can also provide some relief.